In Loving Memory

Hey Venissa – Though I may not know exactly where you may be, I know you are in a happier place. You have escaped the pain and the sickness, the suffering and the sorrow. Though your life was tragically short, you lived every second of it to the fullest; it truly was a beautiful life. You taught us so many things and inspired us to become better people every single day. One memory that sticks out for me was last June, about two weeks after you were diagnosed, when you called me and said, “I don’t care if I lose my arm or both arms. And my legs too, they can take my legs. I just want to live to spend time with my family.” In that minute I knew you would never go down without a fight. And I was right. You battled the cancer with such strong spirit and unrivaled courage. Every time a doctor told you your time was limited, you simply responded by having even more determination to outlive their predictions. You turned that initial three weeks into almost fourteen months. And in that time you touched the lives of so many others – whether you knew them personally or not. You taught us to enjoy every minute and find beauty in the simplest of things. We miss you so much Venissa. We will carry you with us in our hearts and our memories all our lives. You’ll always be my little chickadee. I find comfort in knowing that you are up there, somewhere, watching over us, probably dancing among the stars.

Venissa Xiao passed away peacefully in her sleep early in the morning on Wednesday, July 23, 2014. She spent her last days surrounded by her loving family – parents Lin Xiao and Juli Bai, her sisters Danica and Dayna, and her grandmother. Her parents held a private burial on Friday and buried some of her ashes. Toward the end of this week, her mom hopes to travel to sprinkle her remaining ashes in the Atlantic Ocean. In memory of Venissa, donations are being collected for the Terry Fox Foundation. Tubman Funeral Homes is organizing these donations (link below).

Let’s all share our favourite memories of Venissa! I welcome everyone to post a tribute, or simply write about a fun time you had with her. Either post it here on her blog or send it to me by email (jsg.graham@gmail.com). I hope to put together a scrapbook of our thoughts and messages and give it to her family in her memory.

Follow this link to read Venissa’s obituary and to donate on her behalf to the Terry Fox Foundation:

http://tubmanfuneralhomes.com/families-care/?id=677  

Hey Still Hanging in There

So as mentioned previously, I'm handing half of blogging duties to my friend to Jackie. That doesn't mean I'm not blogging at all, just that when I'm incapable to do so, you'll be seeing her.
My breathing has been very very difficult lately and my doctor is very worried. Please pray for me I'm honestly happy that I can see the sunrise and sunset everyday. Love you all. Talk to you all soon!

A Brief Update

Hey everyone! Hope you're ready for a little twist! For the next little while, both Venissa and I will be updating her blog occasionally. I'll be posting when she is too tired or busy with various treatments, then she will post whenever she feels up to it :) My name is Jackie - I met Venissa in high school, then we ended up in the same residence when we came to university. We had just moved into an apartment together to start our second year of school when she received her diagnosis over a year ago now. But that's enough about me!

Venissa is still in the hospital, and most of her lungs are filled with tumour progression, which is making it difficult for her to breathe. The shortness of breath is pretty terrifying, but they do have a plan to try to improve it! Today the doctors are going to try to radiate her lungs to see if they can reduce the tumour growth and make it a little easier for Venissa to breathe. Also, in the past few days they have put her on medications to keep her sedated to a certain level to help her deal with the horrible feeling of constantly being short of breath. Let's all pray that today's radiation will work to make our beautiful Venissa a little more comfortable!!!

Some Bad News

     So things have really not been going so well. I’m back in the hospital again with a pain crisis that can’t be managed by any of the pain meds that they’ve been giving me. I’ve literally been crying in pain. For some mysterious reason, in the last two days, I’ve had a little bit of pain relief, but I’m so scared the pain will come back. A ways to prevent the pain from getting too bad is to put a catheter into my spinal cord, which, please cross your fingers that they can do. Right now, I’m scared they won’t do it because my body is so weak. Okay, enough about my pain.

     The second terrible terrible news is that my oncologist wants to stop chemo and make everything from now on just pain control. Basically what I’m hearing is that they’re giving up on me and I’m done. I really don’t know what to do. I do have to admit that my body is very weak and new problems keeps on popping up. I really want to pain free and go home. I don’t know how much time I have left, but that’s how I would want to spend it.